Monday, March 07, 2005

What Do You Say During Shiva?

I am deeply saddened at this point in my life because I am visiting many people who are sitting shiva. Quite often when I am leaving I am told: Thank you for coming.

Any suggestions on how to respond?

You're welcome doesn't make any sense.
It's my pleasure is a lie and inappropriate.
It's my duty smacks of non-desire to be there.
Because it's my honor seems to be the best response, but seems a bit too aruthurian. Only for simchas is a good one, but doesn't convey the idea that I came to honor the dead person and comfort the living.

Any other thoughts?